Tips for Parents
When supporting your college student, it's important to recognize that neurodivergence, including conditions like Autism and ADHD, requires a different approach from other types of disabilities. This recognition is crucial not only for understanding your child but also for appreciating the unique needs and actions of their peers.
Neurodivergent students are protected under laws like the Americans with Disabilities Act, yet they often don't show the conventional signs of disability that might be more familiar to us. It's key to understand that being neurodivergent doesn’t necessarily correlate with intellectual disability. In fact, many neurodivergent individuals have average or even above-average IQs. However, traditional IQ tests may not accurately reflect their abilities since these assessments aren’t designed for diverse cognitive styles.
How to Approach Neurodivergence
Think of neurodivergence as a different way of processing language and culture, rather than a lack of intellectual capability. Neurodivergent students have all the emotional and intellectual capacities of their neurotypical peers, but they experience the world in distinct ways, particularly in how they communicate and interact socially.
As parents, it's vital to foster an environment that values these differences and promotes understanding among all students. This approach not only supports your child but also enhances the college community, making it more inclusive and supportive for everyone.
These tips will help equip you to support your neurodivergent college student, ensuring they have a fulfilling and successful college experience.
Understand Their Accommodation Needs
It's essential to understand what accommodations can support your student's unique needs, such as preferred seating, testing accommodations, or alternative formats for assignments. Early coordination with the college’s disability services can ensure these accommodations are approved and implemented. Additionally, discuss with your student how they feel about these accommodations and if adjustments are needed as they progress through their college life.
Establish a Communication Plan
Create a communication strategy that suits your student's preferences, which might include daily texts or weekly video calls. This plan should balance the need for independence with the peace of mind for both of you. It’s important that your student feels supported but not monitored, fostering a sense of trust and autonomy.
Encourage Routine and Structure
A structured daily schedule can help neurodivergent students manage anxiety and stay organized. This might include set times for studying, breaks, social activities, and sleep. Help your student develop these routines before college starts, if possible, and adjust them based on what works best for their specific situation and as they adapt to college life.
Promote Social Connections
Encourage your student to engage with campus life through clubs, sports, or student organizations that reflect their interests. Such involvement can be a significant step in building a supportive social network, improving their college experience. If social scenarios are challenging, consider strategies or role-playing exercises to help them navigate these settings comfortably.
Model Self-Advocacy Skills
Equipping your student with the skills to advocate for themselves is crucial. This includes understanding their rights, knowing how to request accommodations, and expressing their needs effectively. Role-playing conversations or helping draft emails can prepare them for interactions with professors and college staff.
Explore Assistive Technology
Assistive technologies can enhance learning and daily functioning. This might include calendar apps for organization, text-to-speech software for easier reading, or noise-canceling headphones to help focus. Assist in researching and acquiring any technology that supports their learning style and needs.
Prioritize Mental Health
Access to mental health resources such as counseling services, support groups, or therapy should be a priority. Encourage your student to utilize these resources even if they feel fine, as regular mental health check-ins can prevent issues from escalating. Discuss ways to manage stress and stay mentally healthy, especially during transitions or exams.
Set Realistic Expectations
Help your student set achievable goals that reflect their capabilities and challenges. Discussing and adjusting these goals over time can help avoid frustration and boost confidence. Celebrate small achievements to reinforce positive outcomes and discuss constructively any setbacks, focusing on efforts rather than just results.
Stay Informed
Stay informed about legal protections and rights under educational and disability law. This knowledge can empower both you and your student, particularly when facing discrimination or when accommodations are not met. Being proactive in understanding these laws can help you advocate more effectively on their behalf.
Be a Source of Emotional Support
Offer consistent emotional support through regular check-ins and by being a listening ear. Recognize the unique challenges your student might face and validate their feelings about these experiences. Emotional support is as crucial as practical advice, providing a strong foundation as they navigate college life.
But most importantly - REMEMBER THE INDIVIDUAL!
People are people, no matter how they think or act. Treat everybody like a human deserving of the same care and attention you would want.
Download a quick reference sheet below!
Neurodivergence Tips for Parents.pdf